Mags Hartley: Stiff Upper Lip

Mags Hartley’s relatable
guide to relationships

Mags Hartley in her cobalt blazer, one eyebrow raised and lips pursed, wagging her finger at you like she’s telling you off
my mum, Mags x

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  • Mags Hartley: Stiff Upper Lip. A relatable e-guide to relationships in 8 easy-to-follow sections.
  • Pre-order discount, and get your guide in time for Christmas.

Pre-order sale price £15 Outside the UK, around $20

Price after launch £++

Pre-order for £15

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Sale ends in

Midnight, 1 December 2026 (UK time)

The pre-order sale has ended.

Mags at her desk in the studio, paused in black and white A note from Editor Hayley
Hayley’s note: “Editor Hayley here. Thank you so much if you’ve watched our videos, I’ve loved editing them! This guide is a down to earth insight on relationships, we think you’ll really love it. Your purchase really helps us out, but even if you don’t buy it, thanks for stopping by!”

Relationships aren’t easy.

When relationships throw up challenges, emotionally, sexually or financially, it’s natural to question ourselves.

  • Reply to notlabelling_it_x’s comment

    We’ve been in a situationship for 6 months but doesnt want to be my bf

  • Reply to office_widow_x’s comment

    My husband is always in his office, he’s not spending time with me or the kids.

  • Reply to fifty_fifty_flat_white’s comment

    I earn less than him but he insists we split everything. He won’t even buy me a coffee.

  • Reply to is_it_me_x’s comment

    4 months no sex, does he not find me attractive anymore?

What’s inside

  1. “I’m Fine”

    But we’re not fine, are we?

  2. Being Buried by Overburdening sharing the load

    There’s no quality when there’s inequality.

  3. Courting situationships

    How long is too long?

  4. Just Be Honest

    Going from group chat gossiping to up-front honesty.

  5. The In-Laws

    Understanding the psychology of families and why they can sometimes be too much.

  6. The Bedroom Bit

    You should both enjoy sex. It’s not too late if it’s starting to feel like a chore.

  7. Bickering

    It’s time to act like a team, and communication is key.

  8. When to Walk

    You don’t need to justify to anyone, sometimes you just have to go.

  9. BONUS: Hayley’s translations

    (in case you have children too)

Mum says it’s for you if:

Hayley’s note: so everyone then, right?

How pre-ordering works

  1. Now: pre-order for £15 (around $20). You’ll get an order confirmation after purchase.
  2. 1st Dec: Your guide arrives by email. Think of it like an early Christmas present.
  3. After that: You’ll still be able to buy it, but the price will go up.

Hayley’s note: i answer the emails

Stuff people ask

Is it a book?

Not quite, it’s a short e-guide in a PDF format, so read it on your phone, or print it out (if you’re Gen X, like my mum). -Hayley x

Is it just for women?

No! Mum’s advice works whoever you’re with, want to be with, or want to leave. -Hayley x

Is Mags real?

No, but her advice is very real. Mags embodies my real mum who is a therapist and has really worked with all kinds of people. We work together on this! Think of Mags like your e-therapist (except this isn’t therapy, obviously). -Hayley x

How much is it?

15 of the finest Great British Pounds (if you pre-order). If you’re outside the UK your bank automatically converts it to your local currency. That’s about 20 United States freedom Dollars. -Hayley x

When do I get it?

1st December 2026, straight to the email you paid with. Until then you’ll just have your order confirmation. Can’t see either? Check your spam folder. -Hayley x

Can I give it as a gift?

Absolutely! This guide makes the perfect Christmas or birthday present. Just forward the digital delivery email (don’t forward the confirmation email!). Need a paperback? Send me an email at show email. -Hayley x

What will it say on my bank statement?

Something boring, we keep things discreet. It’ll show as “PAYHIP MH”. -Hayley x

Can I get a refund?

Full refund at any point during pre-order. After delivery, purchases are generally considered final, but email me at show email and I’ll see what I can do. -Hayley x

Can I share it with a friend?

Sure, I love to spill the tea. Pls follow us on socials though! -Hayley x

Is there an audiobook version?

Should there be? Let me know at show email and I’ll see what I can do. -Hayley x

Can I ask Mags a relationship question?

Of course! Comment on any of Mags’ videos or message us on TikTok or YouTube. She might even read yours out on the show. -Hayley x

How can I get in contact?

For anything business related, email me at show email. For relationship questions, see above. -Hayley x

What if things are really bad right now?

If you’re being hurt or you’re scared of your partner, speak to a domestic abuse hotline, local law enforcement or a trusted friend.

UK
National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge), free, 24/7: 0808 2000 247
Samaritans, free, 24/7: 116 123
Emergency: 999

USA
National Domestic Violence Hotline, 24/7: 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988
Emergency: 911

Pre-order it!

Anime-style Mags pointing straight at you

Hayley’s note: (she’s pointing at you)

Pre-order form

  • Mags Hartley: Stiff Upper Lip. A relatable e-guide to relationships in 8 easy-to-follow sections.
  • Pre-order discount, and get your guide in time for Christmas.

Pre-order sale price £15 Outside the UK, around $20

Price after launch £++

Pre-order for £15

Read the FAQs

Sale ends in

Midnight, 1 December 2026 (UK time)

The pre-order sale has ended.

£15 until 1 Dec, then £++

Pre-order